There are a whole bunch of people in the world who are a lot more tired than they need to be. That’s because they aren’t just being one person, they are trying, in many cases, to be multiple people. At work they are a person who tries to present a professional image. At church they are a God fearing believer. In their social life they are a carefree fun loving life of the party person. With their kids they are the loving authoritarian. They are so many different people in the same day it’s no wonder they are so tired.

They are also often confused because when you switch between all those personas, it’s easy to lose track of which one to be at any moment. It’s tough work being who you think other people want you to be. Or who you think you’re supposed to be.

Life is a whole lot easier and a whole lot less stressful when you find the courage to just be you. You’re authentic self, 100% of the time.

Being authentic means being true to yourself and living in alignment with your values, beliefs, and personality. It means being real and honest in your actions, words, and interactions. You don’t pretend to be someone you’re not or bow to society’s expectations or pressures.

Being authentic means being self-aware. It also means self-acceptance and the courage to express yourself honestly. This may mean being vulnerable or facing criticism. It’s about embracing your uniqueness. And, owning your thoughts, feelings, and experiences without fear of judgment. Being authentic lets you live a more fulfilling life. It fosters deeper connections with others. It also promotes inner peace and contentment.

Being authentic may not get you the most friends but it will positively get you the right ones.

Being your authentic self involves a journey of self-discovery and self-expression. Here are some steps to help you along the way.

Self-Reflection. Take time to reflect on your values, beliefs, and interests. Ask yourself what truly matters to you and what makes you happy. It is amazing how many people have NEVER invested the time required to truly know themselves. Don’t wait another day to figure yourself out. Journaling or meditation can be helpful tools for this.

Self-Acceptance. Embrace all aspects of yourself, including your strengths, weaknesses, quirks, and imperfections. Accept that you are unique and that it’s okay to be different from others.

Set Boundaries. Establish healthy boundaries to protect your time, energy, and well-being. Learn to say no to things that don’t fit your values or goals. Instead, prioritize activities and relationships that fulfill you.

Authentic Communication. Practice expressing yourself honestly and openly, both verbally and non-verbally. Share your thoughts, feelings, and opinions authentically, without fear of judgment or rejection.

Follow Your Passions. Pursue activities and interests that ignite your passion and bring you joy. It could be a hobby, creative project, or career. Following your passions lets you fully engage with life and be yourself.

Surround Yourself with Supportive People. Surround yourself with people who accept you and encourage you to be yourself. Build close relationships with friends, family, and mentors. They should support your personal growth and authenticity.

Embrace Vulnerability. Be willing to be vulnerable and share your true self with others. Vulnerability fosters deeper connections and allows others to see the real you

Continuous Growth. Being yourself is a process. It’s ongoing and about self-discovery. Stay open to new experiences, challenges, and opportunities for personal development.

Celebrate Your Authenticity. Celebrate your unique qualities, talents, and contributions to the world. Embrace who you are wholeheartedly and take pride in living authentically.

Never forget, someone else’s opinion of you is their problem, not yours. Living an authentic life is one of the most “freeing” things you will ever do. YOU were made the way you are for a purpose, find that purpose, live it, and your authenticity is assured.